Yesterday, a good friend of mine sent me a message regarding his girlfriend. I have known for years and know that he is one of the most disciplined people I know when it comes to his health, fitness, and wellness. However, he is becoming frustrated because his girlfriend, whom he cares about deeply, is not quite as disciplined in that area. He wanted to know how he could get her to start working out and eating healthier. Here are some tips that I gave him:
- Work With The Willing: You have to understand that not everyone puts “Health, Wellness, or Fitness” as their top priorities and if this is the case with your loved one, it may be very difficult to get them to want to workout with you or eat healthy. It doesn’t matter how much begging, nagging, or “suggesting” you do, if they aren’t ready, they probably won’t do it. The best way is to lead by example and hope that they will see your results and lifestyle and get curious. Never make them feel bad about themselves for not wanting to eat healthy or workout. There may be some self image or coincidence issues that they have and by making them feel bad, will only make it worse and push them further away.
- Do Things That They Want To Do: Maybe they are not interested for going on a 5 mile jog with you or doing a program like Insanity, so when you ask them to workout or go to the gym, they may say No, because they don’t like doing what you like to do. If you don’t mind making sacrifices with your workout, ask them what they would want to do and do it with them. This may mean that you find yourself trading in the free weights for a Zumba class or simply slowing things down and taking a walk or doing Yoga. If they feel that you are being considerate and making sacrifices, they may seize the moment.
- Cook In…Together: Instead of going to eat or going to happy hour, do more cooking at home and cook together. Find recipes that are different and healthy and cook them together. This can be a great way to spend time together and try new things together. Or maybe you can pack a lunch and go for a picnic or meet them for lunch. Also, make sure to keep your house stocked with healthy foods and snacks, so when they are at your place the only option is to eat healthy.
I know it can be frustrating, but giving these tips a try may create a whole new way for you to bond with your loved ones, do and try something different, and help them to start adopting a healthier lifestyle. What other ways do you try to encourage your loved ones to get healthier and fit?